When we don’t attend to our relationship and let it develop on its own, our limiting programs take over and end up destroying all the good things we have created.
If you don’t want this to happen to you, keep reading. I’ll tell you what relationships on autopilot are and how to identify and transform them into conscious relations.
𝐍𝐚𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲, 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐛𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐢𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐞𝐱𝐜𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐮𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐬.
What usually happens is that at the beginning, everything is a garden of exotic flowers, which in time, turns into a cloudy winter.
Two factors why this happens: autopilot and our limiting programs.
When we start to live unconsciously, assuming everything will be fine, we activate autopilot. We relax and let everything unfold by itself.
But inside us, in our unconscious mind, we have behavioural programs, traumas, fears, social conditioning… And as soon as we switch off, they take over.
That’s why love becomes judgement.
Tenderness becomes coldness.
And intimacy ends up going down the drain of late-night quarrels.
𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝟑 𝐦𝐚𝐢𝐧 𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧 𝐚 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐨𝐧 𝐚𝐮𝐭𝐨𝐩𝐢𝐥𝐨𝐭:
𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐧𝐨 𝐜𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞.
The relationship between man and woman is a road to paradise. When your relationship doesn’t have a clear goal or a small, ordinary purpose, you will likely get distracted and go on autopilot.
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝 𝐩𝐚𝐢𝐧.
Intimacy awakens all the traumas we have inside. Our pain, sadness, insecurities, loneliness, weakness… the good stuff!
If you are not naturally facing these traumas in your relationship, it probably means that you are avoiding them. This is a clear sign of relationships on autopilot. You can spend years living together without paying attention to these healing processes, and thus intimacy becomes cold.
𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐦𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐛𝐢𝐠.
If you start fighting over the little things, like food, clothes, the house… you may have stopped consciously guiding your relationship.
When you keep your eyes fixed on the horizon, that place where you want to take your relationship, and you stand firm in your decision, the little things are of little importance. You can get through them without drama and without feeling bad.
When the important is neglected, the unimportant becomes a drama.
𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞. 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐟𝐮𝐥, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐠𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐭𝐡 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐚𝐜𝐲.
There is no stronger bond than that which unites souls who have endured hardships together and grown together.
That love is beyond anything we can imagine. You feel you can die in peace with the other person when you are there, and his very presence makes you feel ready for anything.
To give everything.
And to receive everything.
If you want to get off autopilot and take control of your relationship and your life, PM me.