Secrets in Love Relationships

𝐖𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐰𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐭𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞. 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐜𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐟𝐥𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐡 𝐚𝐬 𝐥𝐨𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐬 𝐰𝐞 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐬.

Couples with the guts to be transparent create endless tenderness.

This is Conscious Intimacy.

𝐖𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐚𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐬𝐩𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐤𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐞𝐤𝐬.

And when we see things we don’t like… We tend to think that it’s us that’s wrong.

And we keep quiet.

And we don’t tell what bothers us.

We don’t tell what we feel.

We keep our sadness, our dissatisfaction, and our doubts to ourselves.

We put on an icy smile on the outside and pretend that our relationship is wonderful. And so we accumulate tension and conflict until eventually we explode, fight, argue, despise…..

𝐖𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐞 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐟𝐟 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬…. 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞𝐭𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐜𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐬 𝐮𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐧 𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞.

I share with you the top 3 beliefs that make us keep secrets in relationships:

“𝐈𝐟 𝐈 𝐬𝐚𝐲 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐈 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞, 𝐈 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐲 𝐦𝐲 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩.”

This belief is connected to the idea that the relationship is something FRAGILE that you have to protect.

Love is not fragile. Love is Omnipotent. Any problem you bring to the table is forgiven if there is love. It is forgotten. It turns into opportunities.

Try it. Combine love with any problem, and tell me how it goes 😉.

“𝐈𝐟 𝐈 𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐈 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞, 𝐈 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐡𝐮𝐫𝐭 𝐦𝐲 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐧𝐞𝐫.”

This idea is connected to the tendency to take responsibility and blame ourselves for the processes of others.

We are not to blame for the processes of our partners. If by sharing something, we touch them, we offer them an opportunity for healing.

When we allow our partners to feel their wounds freely, we help them to create awareness and heal.

“𝐈𝐟 𝐈 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐈 𝐜𝐚𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝, 𝐈 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐥𝐢𝐜𝐭.”

Debate and discussion is the best change motivator for relationships.

Still, many people want to change their relationships but cannot say it out loud because they are afraid of conflict.

Change comes when we can discuss, cooperate and agree. Where there are healthy communication strategies, there is no conflict. There is evolution.

𝐓𝐨 𝐞𝐧𝐣𝐨𝐲 𝐓𝐨𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞, 𝐰𝐞 𝐦𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐛𝐞 𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠. 𝐓𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐧𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐝 𝐢𝐧 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫. 𝐍𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐬. 𝐍𝐨 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐜𝐤𝐬. 𝐖𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫.

“Here and now, I uncover my thoughts, emotions, and feelings. I am not afraid of the consequences because nothing can break our bond. The average breeze cannot affect the storm of our love”.

If you want to create this Total Transparency in your relationship, PM me, and we’ll talk. At Inner Spark, we help conscious women and men manifest their sacred relationship, so they can enjoy the Gods’ intimacy while living the human experience.

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