How to make Soul Centered Decisions
Someone told me the other day: “Pablo, we live today like the kings were living 150 years ago.”
And it is absolutely true. Think about it. We can fly across the world on a whim. If you live in a modern city, you have hundreds of activities pulling at you every single weekend. Thousands of people around you to meet, connect with, and build relationships. If you open your phone right now, you have an infinite stream of stories, images, distractions, and entertainment at your fingertips.
We are drowning in options. We are kings of the material world.
Yet, when we approach the great wall of life-altering decisions, we freeze.
Because we have so many options, it has become terrifying to choose just one and COMMIT. We take a little taste of an experience, a little bite of a project, a superficial sip of a romance… and the second it requires depth, we jump. We jump to the next shiny experience. And the next.
This creates a life of constant distraction. It creates a completely superficial connection with everything and everyone around us. We lose the capacity to experience true intimacy, true depth, and true commitment. We date on the surface, we work on the surface, we live on the surface.
And eventually, you wake up one day and realize: Wait. Something is missing.
You feel drained. You feel empty. Because despite having the options of a king, you are acting like a prisoner to your own indecision.
The Silent Bleed: Why Standing Still is Destroying Your Vitality
When we aren’t distracted by a million superficial choices, we usually fall into the second scenario: Paralysis.
This is the exact opposite of distraction. Instead of choosing many things, we choose NOTHING. We cannot choose. Why? Because we are terrified of failure. We are terrified of making mistakes. The ideas we have about our future paths don’t look perfect. They don’t offer us a 100% iron-clad guarantee of success, so we delay the choice.
We put our lives on standby.
The other day, I was having a conversation with a colleague of mine, a powerful shaman. She looked at me and confessed: “Pablo, I’ve had the desire to change my house for 10 years.” Ten years! I asked her, “How can you live with a desire burning inside you for a decade and do nothing about it?” She gave me the classic excuses: She couldn’t find the perfect moment. She couldn’t find the right alternative. The perfect apartment never showed up. Blah, blah, blah.
I know you have experienced this energy. You want to do something—you feel the call to change your life—but somehow, there is ALWAYS a problem. Something always stops you.
Here is the absolute danger of paralysis: You cannot hoard your vitality.
Imagine your creative energy and your vitality are like money. You cannot say, “Okay, I don’t have clarity today, so I will put my vitality in a safe, and when I am sure of my path, I will spend it.” It doesn’t work like that. You spend your vitality EVERY SINGLE DAY. If you do not consciously invest it in the direction you want, you will blindly spend it on distractions, on toxic habits, on anxiety, and on whatever random drama crosses your path.
When you stand still waiting for the “perfect” guarantee, you are bleeding out your life force.
The Autopilot Crisis and The Recursive Loop
There is a third scenario. It is the most common, and it is the most dangerous. It is when we make choices, but we make them entirely on Autopilot.
We choose based on the heavy influence of our environment. We choose based on inherited beliefs, the way our family lived, what our friends are doing, and what the system expects of us.
I remember a conversation I had when I was 23 years old, living in America, long before my spiritual awakening. A friend looked at me and asked, “Pablo, what are you going to do once you finish university?”
I remember shrinking my shoulders. I looked at him like he was crazy and said, “What do you mean? I will find a partner, I will get married, and I will find a safe job.” In that exact moment, my mind was so narrow that I couldn’t even OPEN myself to an alternative. The path was set.
So, I did exactly that. I found the partner, I got the job, I walked the straight line. And a few years later, life took me to a complete and devastating breakdown. Because the life I had created on autopilot was empty. It had zero meaning for my soul.
This is the human tragedy. We have the fascinating, crazy capacity to make choices that keep us in the EXACT same place. I call these Recursive Decisions.
We make choices driven by our lower self, our reptilian mind. This mind only cares about security, control, and keeping the status quo. It wants to avoid pain and effort at all costs. It is the mind that tells you to stay home instead of going to the event. It is the mind that makes you break up with a toxic boyfriend, only to find an identical toxic boyfriend six months later.
In Spain, we have a terrible saying for this: “Better someone bad that you already know, than someone good that you still don’t know.”
Recursive decisions look reasonable on paper. They feel safe. But they are a 100% guarantee of stagnation. You will be safe, yes. But you will NEVER be happy.
The Twist: What Your Soul Actually Craves
If we want our decisions to be aligned with our deepest truth, with our spirit, we have to stop asking what is safe, and start asking: What does the soul actually want?
Many spiritual traditions agree on one core concept: The meaning of life is the expansion of consciousness.
Let’s ground that concept. What does “expansion” actually look like?
Observe a three-year-old child. They have just learned how to walk. Watch how they move through a room—with an absolute, spontaneous curiosity for EVERYTHING. They try to touch, catch, play, and engage with everything around them. If you are doing something, they will run over and mimic you. They want to learn.
They learn words, coordination, and language at an astonishing, explosive rate. Why? Because a child fully embodies the archetype of EXPANSION. It is in their DNA. They don’t have filters. They haven’t crystallized their ego. They don’t have an inner dialogue whispering, “What if I fail?” They are transparent manifestations of the soul’s desire to grow.
Or look at nature. Look at a wild forest.
Nature doesn’t have a mind to create doubts. If the conditions of temperature and soil are met, nature will expand. A flower doesn’t stop and contemplate: “Should I expand? Is it safe to expand? What will the other flowers think?” It just GROWS. It spreads its seeds. Life force tends to expand. It is an existential movement.
Your soul works the exact same way. It is not interested in survival, and it is certainly not interested in comfort. It wants to discover new places. It wants to learn to play an instrument. It wants to overcome fierce limitations and feel the intense freedom of breaking boundaries.
Your soul wants expansion. And until you give it expansion, it will keep gnawing at you from the inside.
The Mechanics of Growth: Why You Must Lose Control
If expansion is the goal, how do we actually get it? Can we order expansion on Amazon? Can we buy a pill of expansion at the pharmacy?
No. Expansion is never instant, and it is never linear. It requires a journey in this material world.
If a flower wants to create another flower a few meters away, it cannot just snap its fingers. It must go through a massive transformation. It must flourish completely open so the bees can pollinate it. It must create a seed. The wind must rip that seed away and throw it onto the cold soil. The seed must bury itself in the dark dirt for the entire winter. And then, it must violently break its own shell to push a tiny green shoot into the light.
It is a huge journey.
In our lives, this is the Hero’s Journey.
Every expansive decision starts with a Call. You feel the pull for transformation, but your attachments and your fears immediately resist it. If you push through that fear, you cross a threshold. You reach the point of no return.
And then, you enter a space where you no longer have control.
You are in a new environment, facing new rules, new people, and new challenges. You are SHAKEN. It feels unstable. It feels terrifying.
But inside this “shaking,” you begin to realize things. The trauma you carried for years comes to the surface. Your hidden limitations are exposed. You are forced to confront the truth about your patterns.
You do not have control here, but this is exactly where the magic happens. After the storm of the journey, you emerge different. Transformed. With a wider perspective, new inspiration, and massive space inside your chest.
You cannot have the expansion without stepping into the shaking.
The Washing Machine of Emotions (My Proof)
Let me ground this with a piece of my own life.
When I was 18 years old, studying at university in Spain, I fell completely in love with a beautiful girl. I knew nothing about women back then. I was incredibly shy. My mind screamed at me to play it safe, warning me that she might reject me, that she might mock me in front of everyone.
But my soul wanted the expansion. I felt a massive call to experience the feminine, to get close, to risk it. So, I overcame my fears and I approached her.
Life, however, is not a movie. She wasn’t in love with me. She liked another guy. But she liked my attention.
So, she played a game. Whenever I pulled away, she would pull me back in with a flirty message. When I got close, she would push me away. I didn’t realize what was happening. I became a total puppet to this feminine energy.
I entered what I call the “washing machine.”
I was lost in a storm of emotions. Coming, going, full of hope, then crushed. I was totally drained. After a few months of this washing machine, I hit absolute rock bottom. I was depressed. I couldn’t talk to people. I had zero vitality for my projects, my friends, or my family.
But then, the shaking produced a realization.
I got very angry at her, but that anger started to twist into heavy condemnation inside my heart. Something in me realized: This is not good. Even if she is playing games, losing myself in condemnation is destroying me.
I realized that the real problem wasn’t her. The problem was MY attachment. I was attached to losing myself in exchange for a breadcrumb of validation.
I made a radical decision. I forgave her 100%. I quit the drama. I spent the last three weeks of the university year locked in my house, studying alone. I detached completely.
The next September, I walked back onto campus. I saw her. I thought my stomach would drop. I thought the pain would return.
But when I looked at her, I felt nothing but pure love and a profound, deep sense of GRATITUDE.
I couldn’t understand it! How could I feel grateful after everything she put me through?
Then it hit me. I had arrived at the end of my Hero’s Journey. Through the pain, the shaking, and the ultimate detachment, I had EXPANDED. I was free. I never lost myself in a relationship like that ever again, because my consciousness had grown wider than that fear.
The journey looked like a mistake, it felt like a nightmare, but it was the exact storm I needed to become free.
How to Break Your Loop (And Where to Go Next)
You are faced with this dichotomy every single day.
You can make a Recursive Decision: choose out of fear, avoid discomfort, protect your ego, and stay exactly where you are.
Or you can make an Expansive Decision: answer the call for adventure, embrace the energy of the NEW, accept the risk, and step into the journey that will widen your consciousness.
You don’t need to burn your entire life down today to start. The mind loves extremes—it tells you that to be spiritual, you must quit your corporate job tomorrow and move to the mountains. That is just your ego talking. Consciousness grows step by step, like a forest.
Here is how you start:
Audit your choices: In every decision, look for the element of expansion. Does this choice bring you a sense of genuine enthusiasm and curiosity? Or are you just trying to avoid pain?
Don’t just run away: If you hate your current situation, don’t just choose to escape. Wait until you connect with a place of expansion first. Find the alternative that makes your soul spark before you jump.
Accept the fear: No expansive decision is 100% pure joy. The fear will be there. The resistance will be there. Your job is to push through it anyway.
The Power is in Your Hands
For too long, you have played the role of the “nice guy” or the “good girl,” pleasing everyone and seeking validation from a system that drains you.
WILLPOWER is your ultimate amulet. If you are capable of saying NO, if you have the courage to say “I don’t like this,” and the strength to walk away when a situation violates your spirit… you don’t need magic tricks. You are protected by your own natural limits.
If you are ready to stop making recursive choices, break through that glass ceiling, and reclaim your ultimate power, you do not have to walk this path alone.
This is exactly what we cultivate in our community. Not esoteric fantasies, but the courage to return to your real life, SPEAK your TRUTH, and DO what you WANT.
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The choice has been, is, and always will be in the WILL that God gave you. Choose, commit, and embrace YOUR journey.
With Love and Purpose,
Teiwaz
